Scripts, speech patterns, and honest advice for the conversations that matter — written by the founder.
The deflection is the test, not the end of the conversation. Here's how to keep your raise request alive — with the exact words to say when the money is supposedly off the table.
Read the post →A calm, specific way to ask for more money — when to bring it up, the exact words to open with, how to name your number, and how to handle the pushback without folding.
Read the post →The guilt isn't a sign you're doing something wrong — it's the feeling of a new skill. Why boundaries trigger guilt, the calm phrases that work, and how to hold the line even while the guilt is still there.
Read the post →Saying no at work isn't about the perfect wording — it's about not undoing the no. The formula, the exact phrases for the four situations that come up most, and the three mistakes that make you sound worse.
Read the post →People-pleasing isn't who you are — it's a habit you learned and can unlearn. The one pause that breaks the reflex, why 'I' statements matter, and how to build the tolerance for someone being a little disappointed in you.
Read the post →In the meantime, the best writing prompt is a real rep — download Aplomb and practice the conversation you’ve been putting off.